Todays post is not my typical blog post. What I want to talk about has nothing to do with this outfit either. The two most requested topics I’ve received lately is how I lost my baby weight and more casual outfit posts. We’ll get into that later but I kind of just need to brain dump…
If you’re new to the blog or maybe you don’t know this but blogging is my full time job (besides being a mommy). I left my successful real estate career because it was toxic and sucked the life out of me for 14 years. You can read more about it here. I LOVE what I do now. I feel extremely blessed and grateful every single day. However…in the midst of all the collaborations, tight deadlines and trying to keep up with social media, I’ve forgotten why I even started this blog to begin with. Don’t get me wrong, I am SO grateful for all the opportunities and by no means complaining. I’m able to stay home with Milan and do what I’m passionate about. Life doesn’t get any better than this!
Since becoming a mommy, I’ve struggled. I’ve struggled with trying to find balance, keeping up with my business and at the same time trying to be the best mommy possible to Milan. I know I’ve talked about it before but social media can be so misleading. If you scroll through most Instagram feeds, it certainly does not portray real life. From the new Instagram algorithms to negative comments, it can be just plain draining. How sad is it that the number of likes and comments you get on a photo that you work so hard on can affect your mood. It can also determine if a brand wants to work with you or not. Has it come to this? Instagram is frustrating at times yet it’s the livelihood of my business. It’s a double edge sword.
I’ve been asked so many times, how do you do it all? Honestly, I have no idea and sometimes I barely get through the day (lol). Most people think of blogging as a hobby and we get to wear fancy clothes and pose for photos. That is so far from the truth. It’s all fluff. We post only what we want others to see, not really what is happening behind the scenes.
Blogging is just like any other business and you have to treat it as such if you truly want to build your brand. It looks super easy but it’s NOT. Just like real estate, everyone wanted to make a quick buck and thought they could cut it but most tried and would fail. Blogging is no different. My advice to anyone who wants to be an influencer/blogger/social media star, do it for the right reasons and not to make money.
Okay so how did I lose my baby weight? It took me about a year to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight and I still have a few pounds to go (still nursing). I gained 27 lbs. during pregnancy and now am down to 94 lbs. I inadvertently lost my baby weight and haven’t exercised at all. Cue a hundred *eye rolls*. Yeah I get it, it’s annoying but I’m not telling you this to brag. I actually would love to exercise and need to for my own health! I think my weight has a lot to do with genetics however diet obviously plays a major role.
Taking care of myself or losing weight has taken a back seat. The only reason why I even lost any weight is due to trying to figure out what was causing Milan’s eczema. After trying every natural cream/remedy on the market, the only thing left was the process of elimination diet. Which meant I had to cut out dairy, wheat, grains and all processed foods to see if what I was eating was affecting Milan. It was SO hard! I did not enjoy this but was willing to do anything and everything in hopes that it would help us figure out the source of what was flaring up her skin. Unfortunately we didn’t find the answer we were looking for but in the interim, I lost the majority of my baby weight during this time. By no means am I suggesting you do this to lose weight. Make sure to consult with your doctor or health care professional before attempting to do any type of diet.
Having a baby completely changes your body and unless you have the time to devote to working out, it’s not easy to shed those pounds you gained from creating a human. Even though I’m down to my pre-pregnancy size, my waistline probably will never be the same. Clothes hide a lot so don’t be deceived! LOL
What do I do for exercise? I try to get out and walk for at least 30-45 minutes each day. Even a short walk is better than nothing and getting fresh air and vitamin D is just healthy for your mind and body. I eat (or try to) mostly all organic and as little processed foods as possible. What I’ve learned over the past couple of years is that food is medicine for body. The choices we make and the food we eat has a great impact on how our bodies react. Do I always make the right choices? Heck no. I’m only human and love carbs and chips (lol). I allow myself to indulge here and there so I don’t go crazy. I may do a post on what I eat to give you an idea of my diet. There’s a LOT to cover.
Shirt: Socialite cutout choker tee (size XS) | Jeans: 1822 Denim step hem jeans (size 24, another option HERE) | Sneakers: New Balance for J.Crew mesh sneakers (also have these in pink) | Purse: Gucci soho disco bag | Hair wand: T3 whirl trio styling wand | Lipstick: YSL | Nails: Acquarella (similar HERE) | Sunglasses: Tory Burch (similar HERE) | Watch: c/o kate spade holland bracelet watch
I better stop while I’m ahead because I could go on and on….so let’s get to this outfit. I never thought in a million years that I would do a post wearing jeans and sneakers but this what I’ve been wearing a lot lately. This cutout choker tee is one of those items that looks WAY better in person than it does online. It’s not as low cut as it appears on the model and sizing runs small. I’m wearing XS and it fits like a basic tee. Very comfortable and available in a bunch of different colors. Also these jeans are actually step hem jeans that I rolled up twice because they are slightly too long. I love the wash, minimal distressing and the fit is very flattering. The best part? It’s only $45! If you like raw edge jeans, this one is only $44. I have my eye on these darker wash skinny jeans for only $39.
As much as I would love to say that I wear fancy clothes everyday, that is just not my life right now. I enjoy getting dolled up and wearing pretty dresses and heels but the reality is, I’m just a regular gal trying to navigate my way through this journey of motherhood and making sure I stay healthy, positive and happy for Milan. Because at the end of the day, she’s the only thing that matters to me. 🙂