Isn’t it crazy how social media and blogs portray influencers to have this picture perfect life? Heck, I’ve been blogging for what seems like an eternity and I sometimes find myself scrolling and saying wow, she has a perfect life. She has it all. I’m here to tell you that it’s all fake. Okay, not all of it, but for the most part, it’s just a highlight reel of what people want you to see. It’s not real life.
By no means am I saying bloggers are fake or what they post is fake. It’s just part of our business. We have to post pretty pictures and cute outfits for sponsors, collaborations etc. That’s how we make our income. Most influencers are full time so we have no choice but to succumb to the pressure of posting beautiful photos and pretending that life is perfect. It’s necessary to survive in this very saturated market of influencers. Think about it, what brand or company wants to hire you if your feed looks like shit? I wouldn’t. I would want someone with amazing photos too!
I wanted to bring this up because since I started being more open about my recent struggles, I’ve gotten so many messages and emails about how people have followed me for years and thought I had a perfect life but now I’m more relatable because of what I’m going through. At first I’m like what? Perfect? OMG not even close! Then I take a step back and realized yeah based on my Instagram feed and blog, it does appear as if I had it all. To be honest, I thought I had it all at one point. Boy was I wrong. Clearly my life is the furthest thing from perfect. Don’t get me wrong, I’m very blessed and grateful but you know what I’m saying.
Look, no one is perfect. No one’s life is perfect no matter how beautiful their blog or Instagram feed appears to be.
What I’ve been through and what I’m going through is despicable. Disgusting and unbelievable. I still have a hard time digesting it even though I smile for the camera and put on a brave face for Milan. There are NO words to describe what I’ve been through. Literally NO WORDS.
When I received a comment in my last post about how tacky and unprofessional my blog has been since I started cursing and sharing my struggles just really pissed me off. Sorry but cursing can be therapeutic and I will curse when I feel like it. If it offends you, sorry! I have ZERO tolerance for people who hide behind their computer screens and judge. If you don’t like what I’m posting, simply unsubscribe, unfollow and move on. There is no need to be rude or unkind especially to another woman who clearly is going through some difficult times. We should all support each other. Always. I will pray for them.
I feel like since letting my guard down and opening up, this is the real me. I feel free. It’s freaking liberating! I write what’s on my mind and what I’m feeling at that very moment. Unplanned and completely unpredictable. I used to plan everything out but now I write from my heart. There are times where I don’t even know what I’m going to blog about. After Milan goes to bed, I just type what’s on my mind. I share my thoughts and random things that I may pull from my own experiences or from the thousands of women who have reached out to me to share their story. I choose to share bits and pieces of what I’m going through in case you’re going through something similar, please know that you are NOT alone. It’s okay to hurt, cry and feel. Don’t be ashamed either because it’s not you. I almost feel like I have a purpose now besides sharing my love for fashion.
On another note, these faded black/dark gray jeans are amazing! Topshop petite jeans have been my go-to for the past several years. They fit me so well. The inseam is perfect for petite gals. No cuffing or alterations needed. Sizing is kind of funky and runs VERY SMALL so just go by the waist sizes. I’m wearing size 24×28 (fits like a 23″ waist) but also have jeans in 25×28 (24″ waist).
Tee: Madewell whisper cotton v-neck tee (size XXS) | Jeans: Topshop petite Jamie jeans (size 24×28) | Cardigan: Halogen cashmere cardigan (size XXSP, similar HERE) | Bag: Gucci soho gucci disco bag | Shoes: Steve Madden (similar HERE) | Belt: J.Crew cognac belt (similar HERE)