I received some rude messages this weekend. It’s been weighing on my mind and I need to get it off my chest.
I’ve been very transparent (or as much as I possibly can be and also protect Milan) about my personal life this year. That was MY choice and I am 100% comfortable with the choice I made. I knew it would come with judgement and a lot of negativity. I contemplated back and forth about going public with my new relationship. We, as a couple decided that I was going to ahead and make him public. Of course, I am not naive to how insane the internet can be and I knew by doing so, it would open the flood gates to all the trolls hiding behind their computers.
The amount of positive support that I received about my new relationship was overwhelming and heartwarming. I appreciate each and every one of you that showed your love and support. There were a few haters but that just comes with the territory and I expected it. However this past weekend, the messages and comments I received really upset me.
This same person has messaged me many times in the past with borderline hateful comments and I let them slide. This time, they are crossed the line and I will not stand for it. When your comments or messages are derogatory or hurtful, that is where I draw the line. When you question my integrity or the decisions I make as a mother, you will be blocked.
I’m sure there are a million assumptions as to why I moved, where I moved to etc. It’s funny that the custom home I was building last year is in the same area as the house I recently bought so make whatever assumptions you want. It’s none of anyone’s business why or where I moved. Who cares?!
Some say I moved on too quickly. Some say I’m naive. Some say I’m an idiot for opening up my heart. Some say I’m going to get hurt again. Here’s what I say. I didn’t plan on meeting someone. Life has a funny way of working itself out. You end up meeting the right one when you least expect it. Am I naive? Possibly. Am I an idiot for opening up my heart? I hope not. Will I get hurt again? That’s the chance we all take when we fall in love.
I’ve let my guard down in both my personal life and my business because I want to show the world that great things can happen after a horrible experience. You can love again even when it seems impossible.
Next time you feel like judging someone that is in the public eye or online, remember this. You don’t know the whole story. You only see what is shown. Don’t make assumptions based off of a highlight reel. One day, it could be YOU that is being judged. Women should support each other. Be happy for each other. Show kindness and love to each other. It’s amazing what happens when you are nice to people. It will come back to you tenfold.
Sweater: c/o Banana Republic chunky pointelle sweater (size XXSP) | Skirt: c/o Banana Republic paper bag waist skirt (size 00P) | Shoes: c/o Banana Republic (similar HERE) | Bag: c/o Banana Republic (similar HERE)
On another note, I still love this paper bag waist skirt (see more ways to style it HERE) so much and it’s on sale. Just ordered the double breasted trench dress version in winter white. I also got this sweater dress and hope it fits. Will look adorable with cognac boots and a hat for fall. I also have this chunky knit sweater in my cart…so many cute things!