Sharing this casual Spring outfit and some current thoughts…
I’ve had some really negative and awful comments/messages this past week. After 11 years of blogging, I’ve seen and heard it all but for some reason, it still blows my mind how mean people can be. It’s so easy to hide behind your computer screen or phone and write nasty comments to someone you don’t know. I also find it interesting that most (if not all) these trolls have fake accounts with zero followers, zero posts and their account is private.
How do they even find the time to create a fake accounts just to leave a horrible comment or message? Honestly, who has this much time? Don’t they have anything better to do? Clearly not. You would think I’d be immune to all of this but I’m only human and I can only take so much. I just can’t seem to wrap my mind around how on earth people can do this and look at themselves in the mirror.
As most of you know, I went through a lot over the past few years and the pain I endured was beyond anything imaginable. The other day, I posted a photo of Mr. Right and I on Instagram and my caption was about “dating your man”. Just something from the heart and on my mind at the time. The same recurring fake account with a different name variation (because I keep blocking them) made a disgusting comment about my previous marriage, my current relationship etc. He/She is probably reading this right now because they can’t seem to get enough of me! lol
The details of my past is left untold to protect my family. You can’t know someone’s full story based on the bits and pieces they share online. Yet some people are so quick to judge and leave a cruel comment. Isn’t there enough going on in the world? It’s crazy to me that someone would take the time to create a fake account just to leave a comment to intentionally hurt me. What is the point? Does it really make them feel better? It’s very sad. I feel sorry for them.
If you don’t like me or my content, then don’t follow me. It’s that simple. So simple yet they get off on being mean to me and other influencers. I know I’m not the only one that deals with online trolls but enough is enough. Get a life. I know that these comments aren’t about me. It’s about their own insecurities and jealousy. Some people cannot stand to see other people happy. Misery loves company. I’m in such a great place in my life and I deserve every bit of it.
So to all the trolls that love to hate me, just STOP. Go get some therapy for your issues and stop harassing people online. We are all just trying to get through the day.
Top: Abercrombie bodysuit (size XS) | Jeans: Abercrombie (size 25 short, also comes in extra short) | Shoes: c/o Ann Taylor | Trench: Burberry (similar HERE) | Bag: Tory Burch | Necklace: Casablanca medallion (on sale for only $15)
Anyway, sorry for the rant. On another note, my tie front bodysuit is on sale for only $12.99! I have all the colors. So comfortable and nursing friendly. Also my medallion necklace is on sale for only $15. I wear it all the time and it goes with everything. Thought I would share since we all love a good deal. 🙂
For every one troll, there’s thousands of kind readers. So thank you to those who continue to support me. Love you guys! XO
I’m so sorry you have to deal with the mean comments. Could it be your ex or someone who sided with him at the time? Regardless, you are so beautiful and have a beautiful family. I am so happy that you found your true love and I wish I had your house! Lol!
Thank you Janet. I appreciate it. Honestly it could be anyone but whoever it is, it’s the same person and they are just pathetic. They need a lot of therapy and prayers. Your kindness means a lot. LOL about my house – you are so sweet. XO
I’m so sorry you have to deal with these inappropriate comments. You are right that often times people like you or don’t like you, and it often has nothing to do with YOU! It’s about their insecurities. I had to deal with my own brother in law making mean comments about me based on the small bits I posted on social media. It’s so sad that envy and jealousy can cause people to judge you when they don’t know you. So sorry! Keep your head up and keep doing your thing— you deserve all of the happiness that comes your way!
Aw thank you so much Erin. That’s really sad and disappointing about your BIL. Social media is so fickle. They are highlight reels of peoples lives and yet people are so quick to judge and criticize. It’s just sad. I really appreciate all the kind words – means SO much to me. XOXO
I feel your pain, Annie. Although I do not have to deal with online trolls, I have been treated poorly and talked to/about with much disrespect and downright meanness. You are right–they have a problem and need to seek professional help in order to heal. Someone once gave me the best advice ever. She said to pray for those who have done me wrong. I could not comprehend that concept and struggled with it a lot at first. However, it got easier over time. In fact, when I say my prayers each day, I include the people who have been mean to me in any way. The love and good will in a prayer cancels out all the bad things. Forgiving is hard but praying for them is the first step.
Thank you for sharing your life on this blog. I am so happy that you survived something really bad and now you are thriving in life. God bless you, Mr. Right and the girls! Take care!
Hi Sherry,
Thank you so much for this and for also sharing your story. I absolutely love that advice and my therapist says the same thing. I couldn’t agree more. I still struggle with it but you are right, it does get easier. I always have to think that because of the trauma I went through, I am able to be where I am today and have Meadow and Mr. Right! Such a blessing and gift they both are. Milan is thriving and loves being a big sister. Thank you for all your support and kindness. I wish there were more humans like you. A big virtual hug! XOXO
Oh Annie, I am so sorry!! Unfortunately people who are sad and miserable often feel they need to drag others down, especially those who’ve been able to do the very thing those sad people aren’t able to do. It seems trite to say it’s just jealousy as they’re trying to crush you. But remember, you are more than those negative comments. They don’t make you who you are. Your life is a testament to strength and growth, giving hope to many others who struggle as you did. Chin up. When you’re going through hell, keep on going. Xoxo
Hi Traer,
Thank you so much. I love everything you wrote and I really appreciate your support. Means the world to me. The past several years sure have been a ride but without all that pain, I wouldn’t have met Mr. Right and had Meadow. So the trolls an keep on doing what they love to do! Such a shame that they have to hide behind their computer. What a sad life! Sending you a big hug! Thank you for commenting – made my day! XO
Annie, I just had to add my so sorry. Your real fans are happy for you and your beautiful family. Keep smiling and thank you for all you do and say.
Aw Susan, thank you so much. You are such a kind soul and I appreciate all your support. Sending you a big virtual hug. XO
I am sorry that you were being attacked virtually. I only know you recently through your posts and for me, you are beautiful, smart, kind, and you do care alot about other people. Being a sucessul bloger/business woman takes lot of hard work, commitement and courage. It is very natural to be vulnerable but it also reveals who you truly are. Annie, you are having a beautiful family and you deserve to live in the present moments filled with hapiness. If people want to cling to the past, they don’t have the guts to face the present or even future. Leave these people with their ugly comments and be surrounded with people who love and appreciate you.
That is so weird. I can’t believe you are having to put up with this. I came across your blog because of an outfit you were showing for petites (might have been Ann Taylor’s) several years back. I liked the way you showed how to put outfits together for petites and I liked your color combinations. Kinda helped get me out of my box. LOL. When you started sharing your story of wanting another baby and then your marriage was not going well. I was kind of hooked on what your were going through, but, that you wanted to share to help other women. Then you meet Mr. Right!!! It’s been so much fun to see how your and Milans’s relationship with him has blossomed. And now Meadow Ivy is with all of you. You share outfits in all price range for all young ladies, young mothers. And us mature women can also pick up some good ideas and bargains. You just keep this blog going. I really enjoy it!!!!
Annie,
Sorry you have to deal with that. Hurt people hurt people. It’s not about you, it’s really them. Some people are so unhappy and instead of dealing with it themselves, they take it out on others and want other people to be unhappy too. Some people can stand to see others be happy or be happy for other people. Pay them no mind. Enjoy the happiness you found. Don’t let anyone steal your joy! There are plenty of people who are happy for you and wish you well. Like me 🙂
So sorry you have to deal with this! I am so grateful for your positivity and yes you deserve all the best and beautiful love.
It’s probably someone from your past and/or their flying monkeys. Don’t let them steal your light. You will continue to be better and they will continue to be miserable.
You are awesome! Great response to the haters!! Remember that love and kindness always wins. Just keep being your badass self because you are beautiful and amazing!