Polk Dots, Coral and Black (plus dropping F-Bombs)

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So many things I want to talk about and address.  Not sure which topic I want to discuss today.  Let’s start with the insanely rude comment I received on my Instagram a few days ago.  I was so upset that I dropped a couple of F-bombs.  I have never responded to any comment in the nine years I’ve been blogging with a curse word.  I was beyond irate and it takes a lot for me to get to this point.  It’s one thing to leave a negative comment but it’s a whole other level when you attack my character.

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I almost don’t even want to talk about this because it will only satisfy her (some people crave this type of attention) but it’s currently on my mind.  She basically was saying that I’m portraying this image that I’m now a single mom trying to make ends meet while wanting to buy a mansion that I posted on my Instagram stories.  First, I went to some model homes to get an idea of where I want to live now that my situation has changed.  It’s called house hunting.  She said it was very shallow of me and completely unrealistic.  Um…what the F?

What sent me over the edge

My blood was boiling at this point and then what sent me over the edge is when she responded to someone else about how I was crying to the world and begging people to shop through my links or something along these lines.  She must have deleted it because now it’s no where to be found.  The only reason why I even brought up purchasing through my links is because I received  thousands of messages from people asking me how they can help.  So I was honest.  I’m not going to hide the fact that this is how I make my income.  It certainly does not constitute me begging nor does it portray me as a person who is “trying to make ends meet.”  I was completely disgusted with her assumptions and behavior.  The funny thing is, she has been a long time follower and we have exchanged some direct messages about how she was googling my husband.  Why are you googling my husband in the first place?  So weird and creepy.  Get a life.  I was disappointed that she would leave such a horrible comment when I’ve been nothing but friendly to her.

Why did it piss me off so much?

Honestly for so many reasons but mainly because women should be supporting each other. Especially when someone is going through one of the most devastating times of their life.  In hindsight I should have handled it differently but I’m tired of these online trolls.  Simply unfollow or just don’t say anything at all.  It’s just unnecessary to be so unkind and rude. PERIOD.

You don’t knock someone down and attack their character based on assumptions you see on social media.  She said that she gets that social media makes people decent money but not millions….WTF!  Is she for real?  I never claimed to make millions and yes there are bloggers that are making that much.  Even if I was making millions, I wouldn’t flaunt it nor discuss it.

Social media is only one avenue that makes influencers money.  What does it matter how much money I make or if I live in a small house or want to buy a mansion?  It’s nobody’s business but mine.  It just blows my mind how mean people can be online.  It infuriates me that just because I choose to share my life online does not give anyone the right to do and say whatever they want and get away with it.  I will say an extra prayer for her because she will need it.

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Thank you for letting me vent.  Let’s get to this outfit.  My ruched body-con dress is on sale and it’s the fourth color I have.  So flattering and affordable.   This coral pink color is great for spring and summer.  I added this faux leather jacket as a quick way to transition from day to night.  Love this jacket so much.  It runs very small so I’d recommend sizing up if you are in-between sizes.  I’m wearing size XXS.  See it styled HERE with jeans.

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On a side note, I’ve been sleeping better and feeling great both physically and mentally.  I’m focusing on each day instead of thinking about the past.  I’m looking forward to the future.  I think once I find another house and actually un-pack and get settled, I will feel so much better.  Right now it feels like I’m in limbo and it’s not exactly fun with a three year old.  I’m currently potty training Milan and that’s a whole other post…OMG so much harder than I expected. LOL

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Before I forget, these polka dot sandals are so cute.  Sizing runs true to size and they are pretty comfortable.  Hope some of you were able to pick them up for 50% off.   Thanks for stopping by and listening to my rants. 🙂 XO

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Dress: Leith ruched body-con tank dress (size XXS) | Sandals: c/o Ann Taylor Jaden polka dot sandals | Bag: Chanel m/l (similar HERE or HERE) | Jacket: Blanknyc faux leather jacket (size XS)

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  1. I love your post- you keep it real. Wishing you the best and hoping something good comes your way.
    What’s that od saying, if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all. That applies to those mean morons. Have a great day!

    • Hi Nanette! Aw thank you so much. I really appreciate! It can only get better right? Let’s hope lol I love that saying and don’t understand how people can say the things they say online but would never dare say it to someone in real life. Crazy!

  2. So sorry to hear about and your husband, Annie! I thought something happened, but I didn’t get the chance to read all your posts lately.
    As for that nosy person, I get you! I hate this type of behaviour so much – why don’t people mind their own business??
    Big hugs!!! I really hope you will feel better and better and you won’t have to deal with such rude people anymore! You are a great person and an amazing mum! XX

    • Hi Elena! Miss you girl! Where have you been? You haven’t missed much – just going through some serious crap but that’s okay, I’m alive and Milan is well so that’s all that matters! Hope you are doing great 🙂

  3. It always surprises me when people make rude comments to people they choose to follow. However the green eyed jelous monster brings out the worst in people. To me your blog is very real and honest. You show affordable fashion that’s accessible to many people and you have honest posts about motherhood. (It can be rough). I love house hunting and often look at houses even above my price range for decorating ideas. Keep doing you. I think you’re amazing!!

    • Hi Brandi! Me too! Why not just unfollow if you don’t like what you see? It’s so simple yet they would rather waste their time and leave a nasty comment that sparks so much unnecessary drama. Thank you for your kind words – means a lot to me. Isn’t it ironic that I didn’t even mention that I was purchasing the home I posted on my stories? She just assumed I was buying it and didn’t even know the price! Thank you for your support – love you! XO

  4. Potty training is no easy task! I recently potty trained my son. He still wears a diaper for nap and at night. My best advice I was given was to read the Potty Training in 3 days book. It took us more than three days but the book had lots of great advice. We went right into underwear. He hated the wet feeling and it worked for us. I put a pull up on over his underwear when we went out. That way he felt when he was wet but it didn’t make a huge mess. Good luck!! 🙂

      • It’s called How to Potty Train your Child in Less than a Day. It’s an old book, all about positive reinforcement. I used it successfully with all three of my daughters at 25 months. It’s really a 2-3 day process but so much better than the prolonged alternative!

    • Hi Jamie! OMG potty training is NO JOKE. I made many mistakes the first few days because I had to work and we had to leave the house. But the past 3 days, no accidents and she goes to pee and poop in her little toilet by herself! We left the house today to go get some food and she did great! So proud. I’m still nervous about public restrooms so bought tons of liners that drape all the way down and a portable potty for the car. LMAO – I’m extreme! hahaha

  5. Well don’t let anyone change the way you express yourself. Personally I would love to see pictures if you buy a mansion! Also my husband is a realtor sooo….. 😁 jk You go girl!
    Kathi

    • Hi Kathi! LOL! Thank you so much! I hope I find something for Milan and I. It would be so nice if we were able to get settled in before the holidays…can’t wait!

  6. Annie-

    It breaks my heart to hear of other women attacking one another. The internet has become a place where people can hide behind their cellphones and laptops to make ugly comments whereas most know would hardly happen face to face. I hope your mind is at a better place now. I always find when a person is being negative it usually has nothing to do with you but more about their own self worth and or value. Even if you wanted a mansion, that’s your vision for the life you want for you and your daughter. Don’t let someone else’s small visions for themselves affect what you do. And you know what, you have standards so say it, and maybe living a certain way is only making ends meet to you. Ends meet is a standard we individually set for ourselves. Do you girl. Being a single mom is hard no matter how much you make.

    On a much better topic… those polka dotted shoes though. I need that in my life.
    -Norra

    • Hi Norra! OMG love love love every single thing you wrote. Thank you for taking the time to comment. I couldn’t agree with you more about how people can say whatever they want to online but would never even think to say that to someone in real life. The internet has become so out of control! The part about being a single mom – that touched me so much. I don’t know you personally but I can tell that you are a wonderful soul. Thank you for supporting me. XO

      • Of course! Women supporting women. I’ve been a fan for a while. I love your stylings for petite women. I think I even won a raffle I might have never claimed haha #fail. The internet has become so out of control through social media. We create a place for people to have a voice and unfortunately it opens doors for the negative voices as well. I’m starting to find comfort in going back to blogs again. I can relate being a single mom. You will get pulled in all kinds of directions financially and emotionally. Whatever you do, don’t sacrifice missing out on any moments with Milan though. You will never get that time back. Keep your head up and keep telling me about all of the beautiful handbags, shoes and dresses I want in my life. Wish you all the best!

  7. Seriously?! Don’t give her the satisfaction of you giving an F about what she thinks. If she doesn’t like what you have to say she can do elsewhere. Love your posts – keep doing you!

    • Hi Mary! I know..it’s so hard not to let it get to me. I think if I wasn’t going through what I’m going through, I would have been able to just block her ass and not think about it. You are right, I cannot give her or any other trolls the satisfaction! Thank you for the reminder – I needed it! XO

  8. Thanks for being true to your self. I think that’s what your followers love about you! Continue to shine, because that is what the haters see. They can’t live with you or without you! LOL.

  9. Hi! Please don’t be discouraged by the rude and mean comments from a few followers! We all read your blog because you are a beautiful person both inside and out and have a flair for fashion! Blogging is a tough business and being a mom is even tougher! I love all your posts so keep them coming😘

  10. Annie, you are AMAZING. I’ve been following you on IG for a long time now and I love you and your transparency (even without knowing you on a personal level). Being open is the best way to healing and freedom so keep up the great work and keep inspiring us fellow petite moms to keep our swag even in motherhood. Praying for you and Milan and wishing you nothing but continued blessings and success–spirit, soul, and body!

    • Hi Candace! Omg YOU are amazing. Thank you so much for these beautiful words. I got teary eyed reading it – no joke. It’s because of women like you that have helped my healing process. I honestly don’t know where I would be otherwise. Each day is a struggle but then I look at Milan and she just gives me hope. I appreciate the prayers so much. Love you tons! XO

  11. Just a quick comment on people and their opinions: first of all, I am older than you and have learned that you have to be a little like teflon in life! You have to remember that people that make comments in judgement of you and your life–don’t know you and aren’t walking in your shoes. I have to say, I was more idealistic and probably a little more judgemental when I was younger, but when you have lived a little life and have had some yucky things happen to you, it changes your view a little bit. I think in some ways, the things we go through help us to be more compassionate with others. You keep your head up and take comfort in your friends, your family and your daughter–they are the ones that really count! Love your posts and classy, practical outfits for petites! BTW planning a trip to Las Vegas so if you have any posts on that–would love ideas!

    • Hi Lisa! OMG yes yes yes to being like teflon in life! Especially when it throws crazy curve balls that you never in a million years would expect to happen to you. I appreciate you and omg Vegas….what about that cute navy dress from JCPenney I posted recently? That’s PERFECT for Vegas!

  12. I love your content and I have been following you for some time. Milan is adorable btw!! I just want to tell you that you are an amazing person and keep being YOU! There will always be people that want to hate on other people, it’s sad but it’s true. We all need to support each other and lift each other up, through good times and bad! There is more good in this world than bad….we all need to focus on that and be kind to each other!!
    Sending warm wishes and happy thoughts to you and Milan!

    • Hi Mary Jo! Aww thank you SO much! Milan is hilarious. LOL I really appreciate all your kind words. It warms my heart and I love that you said there is more good in this world than bad. LOVE this so much. I think it’s so easy for people to focus on the bad (I’m guilty of this sometimes). Yes yes be kind is a must! Thank you for being so sweet. XO

  13. People like that are so sad & miserable with their lifes that they can’t see someones brightens & strength no matter what. They try so hard to put you down to their level. Awww. Poor panama hater. 💅🏻

    Some people come into our lifes, to teach us how NOT to be.

    You are a beautiful soul.

    • OMG Sol! You are hilarious and freaking amazing! LOL I love love your entire comment. You my friend are a beautiful soul and I can’t tell you how much it means to me. XO

  14. I would first say how sorry I am for the difficult time you are going through. Second, concerning the person or people who made rude comments, it seems in this day and age people have forgotten how to empathize with others. Seems to me with social media it is easy to say things we wouldn’t think of saying in person due to the anonymity. Very sad and disturbing. I can see teenage girls being this way (unfortunately) but an adult woman? Really? Third, I would lile to thank you for helping me with outfit ideas that I could not do without you. And finally, lean on your friends and family to help you through this difficult time. Wishing you all the best!

    • Hi Debbie! Yes yes yes and yes! It’s so sad and disturbing especially coming from a grown woman. I’m so happy to hear you get some outfit ideas from me. That makes me SO FREAKING happy! I’m very blessed to have a great support system here in CA and back in the midwest. Thank you for taking the time to comment. I really appreciate it! XO

  15. Glad to see you’re feeling better and you sound better, strong woman know how to pick themselves up and that’s exactly what you’re doing! ..: I tried this dress but I think it’s too see through , don’t you agree? It’s so pretty and love the color but that’s why I had to pass. It looks gorgeous on you! Xx 🙂

    • Hi Loren! I’m taking it day by day and each day it gets a little bit easier. Not easy but easier. I just focus on Miss Milan and my business and those two alone are enough to distract me. lol

      I know what you mean about this dress..the front is fine but the back area is def a bit see through. Hopefully no one was looking at my butt. LOL

  16. First of all, that’s a gorgeous outfit, that dress is super flattering and the colour is stunning especially for this season.
    Second, one thing I heard from an artist from my country is that the more haters you have, the more successful you are. You’re a great woman and an amazing professional at what you do and that person is probably just jealous or going through something. There are always people on the internet eager to find someone amazing and try to bring them down to make them feel better about themselves. She probably has no life and this is coming from experience because I was like that once when I had nothing to do all day (even though I wasn’t as rude as that person but still). Just keep being you because for every hater you have hundreds of supporters and we’ll be here to fight off the jerks.

  17. Annie,

    You can rant all you want. I will not discuss your right to FEEL. Most importantly, as I said a few days ago, I went through the same devastating situation and it took me a LONG time to get over it. I had to go to counseling otherwise I don’t know how I would have made it alive.

    By the way, when you have “downs” don’t question yourself. It is absolutely normal. Our emotions can make us feel like a ride on a rollercoaster.

    I’ve bought the nice polka dot dress that you featured a few days ago (Loft) and I’m waiting to receive it… So lovely.

    Have a nice day and let us hear from you. Hugs and kisses from Quebec, Canada.

    • Hi Denise! Thank you. I think my random rants and this platform have made a big impact on my healing process. I honestly think that anyone who goes through this type of devastation, is it even possible to be 100% over it? You can’t ever forget it. You can forgive and heal and move on but it will always be there you know what I mean? In my situation, it’s more than just one thing, it’s so many other devastating things all compiled into one HUGE mess. I’m happy to hear you are better now. Sending love and prayers. XO

      • Take care. And have a good week-end, you have two good reasons to continue… Your lovely daughter and your little Annie inside who hurts but who will get better believe me.

  18. I’m sorry about the mean comment you received. Know that for every rude person there are probably hundreds of nice people following along and supporting you! Thank you for opening up more and showing us more personal aspects of your life!
    Also, is the fit of this dress pretty much the same as the long sleeve version? And is it sheer or more of a thicker material?
    One thing I’ve learned about potty training is that if it seems really tough, just step away for a few days or even weeks. When the child is completely ready it is SO much easier and makes a world of difference. Keep us posted on how it’s going! Hang in there!

    • Hi Jenn! Thank you so much! I really appreciate it. Mean a lot. As far as the fit – yes it’s the exact same sizing as the long sleeve version. The lighter colors are def more sheer from the back but the front is fine. Same material on both! We are surviving potty training! Last 3 days have been amazing and praying it continues. LOL

  19. Thank you for your positivity though it is surely not easy. Also, love all the clothes you show us. Have you ever thought of being a fashion consultant? I’d be interested in your services! 😀

    • Aw thank you so much! I try my best to be positive but sometimes it’s not easy especially when trolls appear. LOL If I had more time, I would love to be a fashion consultant. Haha Miss Milan and my business keep me very busy. Hehe

  20. Hi Annie. Vent away! I think it is beyond rude for people to criticise or scrutise your job or posts based on their on bias or expectations. You only get one life and you’re living it honestly, being true to yourself and generously sharing your life with others. If she gets nothing from your posts, or doesn’t feel your life or job resonates with her (which is mega entitled and a totally weird hill to die on) she should reflect on her own choices and consider unfollowing or following someone who fits into the box that meets her expectations.

    • Hi Michelle! Thank YOU! I love that you just GET IT. I know that I’m going to get judged because I do choose to share my life more openly now than ever before. It comes with the territory but she crossed the line and I was not about to let her ass get away with it. lol Loved everything you wrote – couldn’t agree more! Love you! XO

  21. I have followed you for a few years and had always noticed that your posts were always extremely controlled in tone and very… proper. Stifled maybe? I’m honestly enjoying your new realness so much more! Keep it up! I lost my desire to portray a perfect life in my divorce too. I so relate! I don’t think you have portrayed anything like what that lady said. Some people enjoy trying to tear others down but it really is a shame when it’s women doing it to other women. The new you is enjoyable, pleasant, honest, and real. Keep it up!!

    • Hi KR! OMG how ironic, I literally wrote this on my Instagram feed tonight. My posts and social media have always been very prim and proper because I was always so afraid to be myself for whatever reason. Somehow during this horrible time in my life, I have found myself again and for some reason I am not afraid to show who I really am. It’s quite liberating! 🙂

  22. I love reading your blog and always love how you style your pieces! Keep doing what you’ve been doing and ignore those annoying trolls!

  23. Hi there! I have been following your blog for years now, but this is the first time I’m leaving a comment. Please know that no matter what changes or challenges I face in life, I consistently look forward to a new post from you to brighten up my day. I hope that you continue to share more with us because even if it opens you up to some negative opinions, it also allows us to know you better and show our support. I used to look up to you because of who you are on the outside, but now I look up to you because of who you are on the inside 🙂

    • Hi Ashe! Awwwww yay for your first comment! THANK YOU for taking the time to do so. It really does mean a lot to me. I also appreciate all your kind words. It feels amazing to be able to just write what I feel now and when I get a comment like yours, it makes my vulnerability all worth it. XO

  24. I can see how her comment would boil your blood… what is it to her?? Arh .. what a “B”….her jealously and insecurity is showing…(big eye roll) she has nothing better to do with her life, how sad……. You continue to be you and share as much or as little as you want…us getting to know you is a bonus to the awesome work you do with your blog and posts. ☺️

    • Hi Gladys! Right? OMG I was furious and it seriously takes a hell of a lot to get me to that boiling point. I appreciate your support so much and LMAO to the (big eye roll)! 🙂 You are the best! XO

  25. I’m sorry you keep having to go through these hostile responses over and over.

    Sometimes it feels like you can’t win. There is a certain amount of backlash against influencers because they show their lives (and wardrobes and travel, etc.) as too perfect and therefore make the rest of us mortals feel bad.

    However, it seems like when someone wants to drop the facade and be real, people get their panties in a wad as well. Some people can’t deal with seeing the person behind the image.

    I hope you keep doing what you do and keep saying what you want to say and remember you can’t please everyone, so just please yourself. The people that matter will still follow.

  26. (XXS is your revenge, by the way!!). Lol. You’re right, women should support each other instead of hating … keep doing what you do best. Stay encouraged.

  27. Annie,

    Don’t worry about the haters! Some people are only there for you when things are going great but don’t want to hear or be around you if it’s not going so well. Please know that you have plenty of people who are supporting you, care for you, and are praying for you. -All the best, Brooklyn

  28. I love your honesty! Keep dropping all the f bombs you want. Always remember, it’s never a wrong time to let somebody know they got you f***ed up…….PERIOD! You go Annie Bananie!

  29. Annie, I was literally having the most emotional and stressful day until I read this. Not only did I have to deal with a customer with a nasty soul at work but I’m also trying to move and find a new job (my first professional job) by the end of the summer. Thank you for sharing more than just your wardrobe in this post. Stay strong ❤️

  30. I bought this “coral” bodycon dress and unfortunately, I didn’t know it was almost a “see-through” behind. I could not wear it and I’m not particularly modest! I decided to keep it as a cover up on my swimsuit this summer. Otherwise, I would not go out with it. It,s a beautiful color of course.

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    You are lovely person with the focus of your site featuring seasonal fashion for the petite frame woman♡. This is the only reason I come to view your site, to view fashion available for petite women.
    I have shared with you in the past, as understanding, compassionate, and empathetic I am to your personal life and situation ( which I am truly sorry you have been enduring), I have shared with you, that I hope you could share this heartache perhaps with loved ones, family, and a professional therapist— as sharing your personal details for quite some time now–it has to come to a point that it takes away the joy of your fashion site for me, and what I thought your original purpose for your site*** to bring ideas and fashion for petite frame women.
    I know you are upset with the comments from one of your viewers…but I believe you must understand, when you open your personal life to all your viewers, and allow comments, …you then open yourself up to people with many different views, not right or wrong, but just different from perhaps your perception and your thoughts. Please think about taking a step back…this woman merely shared her thoughts… Annie, you know your heart and what perhaps is real to you, realize how you chose to react and to respond will make all the difference in your daily life. Please consider a professional therapist for all your personal life hardships and sharing, I truly think keeping to just fashion updates is what makes your site inviting and FUN*….just a thought.♡

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