Self-care is a foreign topic to me. For the longest time, I’ve always put someone else’s needs before mine. I felt like it was my duty and I did it willingly and happily. I felt selfish if I did anything for myself. Once you become a mommy, the guilt worsens and you basically lose yourself completely.
Dress: Crave Frame striped sweater dress (size XXS) | Shoes: c/o Ann Taylor Leanna suede bow pumps (another option HERE)
I think a lot of women, myself included get so wrapped up trying to be the best wife, mother, friend that we somehow forget the most important person. Ourselves. We have this innate desire to be super woman all the time and in the interim, we lose our sense of self-worth. To be honest, I used to judge new moms that got massages or their nails or hair done. I was like OMG how can they do that and where do they find the time? I never had the opportunity to do any of those things since I got pregnant and almost feel robbed of a lot of experiences. It was a solid 3.5 years before I even got a manicure or pedicure and 10 years since I went to the hair salon. Crazy right? The past few months, I’ve colored my hair, tried boba tea, drank Rosé, dropped F-bombs on social media, took an Uber ride and finally tried yoga. I clearly have been missing out. 🙂
MOTHERHOOD IS NO JOKE
Being a mom is freaking tough. Being a new mom in a toxic environment is horrible. Being a working mom is crazy hard. Being a single mom is insanely difficult. Motherhood in general is no joke. We always are the first ones up and the last ones to eat. Most days, I basically eat Milan’s food scraps over the kitchen sink or garbage. I honestly don’t know how my mom was able to do it with 7 kids.
LOVE YOURSELF
I’m now just realizing the how important it is that we take care of ourselves. Just getting my nails done makes me feel human. That one hour I get to sit and do nothing while I get my mani and pedi is freaking heaven. When I got my hair professionally done last month, I finally felt good about myself. A feeling I haven’t felt in a LONG time. To every woman out there whether you are a mother or not, take care of yourself. Pamper yourself. Love yourself. You will be a better person because of it. I’m slowly learning to love myself. It feels weird yet amazing at the same time.
Jacket: Solid long sleeve pixie jacket (size XS) | Sweater: Petite roundneck cotton sweater (size PXS) | Jeans: Distressed skinny jeans (dark wash, size 0) | Bag: Leigh tote (9 colors) | Sandals: (similar HERE)
Sharing this outfit again in case you missed it. See more photos HERE! Here are some weekend sales you may want to check out. Get 40% off dresses, skirts and shoes at Ann Taylor with code: DRESS40. I just got these scalloped sandals and they are super comfy. Plus I would highly recommend these bow sandals I wore in THIS POST. If you’re eying anything at Loft, get 40% off with code: HELLO. I’m digging this textured pocket shift dress and this pink pull on pencil skirt. I also noticed tons of new markdowns at Nordstrom. Worth taking a look if you’re in the mood to shop. My yoga outfit from above is old but I found these pink leggings and these pink sneakers that could work if you want to replicate my look. 🙂
***Info for Milan’s potty training** I got these public restroom liners and this portable potty for the car (use these liners). This is the toilet I used to potty train her at home with and use these tiny trash bags so you don’t have to wash anything!
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Self-care is very important and lately, it’s been difficult for me. My anxiety has been through the roof and migraines have taken most of my day because of that so it becomes hard to do self-care actions when all I can do is be in bed in the dark. But I try and I think that slowly things will get better. Self-care is important as a mom, not only for you to be happy and healthy but also to show kids an example that they have to take care of themselves as well.
Hi Marta,
Oh no:( I am so sorry to hear about your anxiety and migraines. Have you looked into CBD? I’ve heard so many great things about it and it’s supposed to calm depression and anxiety. It even comes in gummy form! You should obviously consult a doctor but it’s worth looking into! Sending prayers that you feel better soon. Please take care of yourself. XO
As a regular follower of your blog, frequent buyer of your finds and first time commenter, I want to say hi and offer my support. I’m a 64 year old yoga teacher, who switched careers after 30 plus years as a real estate broker. I applaud you for caring for yourself on all levels..physical, emotional and spiritual..it’s vital to well being. Please continue on your journey and reach out often…there are non-judgmental loving people all around us ..
Hi Ellen! I am bowing down to you for switching careers after that many years. Truly inspiring and amazing!!!! Thank you SO much for stopping by to say hi and commenting and showing your support. That makes me so happy and I’m grateful. Thank you for making me smile! XO 🙂
Dear Annie:
I LOVE to read your post. I LOVE to see your favorite outfits. I’m often checking twice a day if you have new posts or I read comments by your follower. I sometimes buy a dress or shoes that I see on your blog. Because they are so feminine and we almost have same fashion interests.
Please continue to tell us what’s happening in your life, in your heart. We love you for it.
Hi Denise! OMG if only I could reach out and give you the biggest hug ever. Your comment just warmed my heart so much and I am HONORED that you check twice a day for my posts. That means so much to me. Thank you for all the love and support! XO
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Annie, It’s amazing that you’ve been doing your own hair and nails all this time! Not only did you squeeze in the time to do it but you looked pretty fantastic! Enjoy a bit a pampering now. It’s your turn and our right as women! 👍🏼😘
Hi Miranda! OMG I even used non-toxic nail polish which basically was colored water that fell off within a day. THE WORST when you want pretty nails but have to clean and do the dishes all day. Yes girl I am so going to pamper myself and will enjoy every second of it. LOL
I absolutely love your style. I think this is the first time I have commented on your blog. I’m thinking you have recently been going through a brutal, trying time. When I was 32 (I’m now 51), my husband of 11 years decided he no longer loved me. He left me with sole custody of a 7 year old son and 3 year old daughter to start a new life with his mistress. I know brutal. You deserve whatever it takes to get you through right now with your dignity and sanity. The one piece of advice I would give is to be true to yourself. You are the only person who knows what you need to do to feel like the real you.
“You are too fair to be mistreated and too kind to be undone. Even life has no right to make you bow down and call it uncle.” Maya Angelou
Hi Ginger,
Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I literally got chills when I read your comment. I am so sorry you had to go through that and I pray you are in a better place now. You sound like such a strong woman and mama. Love the quote from Maya Angelou so much and will save it. Sending lots of love to you XO
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