Self-care is a foreign topic to me. For the longest time, I’ve always put someone else’s needs before mine. I felt like it was my duty and I did it willingly and happily. I felt selfish if I did anything for myself. Once you become a mommy, the guilt worsens and you basically lose yourself completely.
I think a lot of women, myself included get so wrapped up trying to be the best wife, mother, friend that we somehow forget the most important person. Ourselves. We have this innate desire to be super woman all the time and in the interim, we lose our sense of self-worth. To be honest, I used to judge new moms that got massages or their nails or hair done. I was like OMG how can they do that and where do they find the time? I never had the opportunity to do any of those things since I got pregnant and almost feel robbed of a lot of experiences. It was a solid 3.5 years before I even got a manicure or pedicure and 10 years since I went to the hair salon. Crazy right? The past few months, I’ve colored my hair, tried boba tea, drank Rosé, dropped F-bombs on social media, took an Uber ride and finally tried yoga. I clearly have been missing out. 🙂
MOTHERHOOD IS NO JOKE
Being a mom is freaking tough. Being a new mom in a toxic environment is horrible. Being a working mom is crazy hard. Being a single mom is insanely difficult. Motherhood in general is no joke. We always are the first ones up and the last ones to eat. Most days, I basically eat Milan’s food scraps over the kitchen sink or garbage. I honestly don’t know how my mom was able to do it with 7 kids.
I’m now just realizing the how important it is that we take care of ourselves. Just getting my nails done makes me feel human. That one hour I get to sit and do nothing while I get my mani and pedi is freaking heaven. When I got my hair professionally done last month, I finally felt good about myself. A feeling I haven’t felt in a LONG time. To every woman out there whether you are a mother or not, take care of yourself. Pamper yourself. Love yourself. You will be a better person because of it. I’m slowly learning to love myself. It feels weird yet amazing at the same time.
Jacket: Solid long sleeve pixie jacket (size XS) | Sweater: Petite roundneck cotton sweater (size PXS) | Jeans: Distressed skinny jeans (dark wash, size 0) | Bag: Leigh tote (9 colors) | Sandals: (similar HERE)
Sharing this outfit again in case you missed it. See more photos HERE! Here are some weekend sales you may want to check out. Get 40% off dresses, skirts and shoes at Ann Taylor with code: DRESS40. I just got these scalloped sandals and they are super comfy. Plus I would highly recommend these bow sandals I wore in THIS POST. If you’re eying anything at Loft, get 40% off with code: HELLO. I’m digging this textured pocket shift dress and this pink pull on pencil skirt. I also noticed tons of new markdowns at Nordstrom. Worth taking a look if you’re in the mood to shop. My yoga outfit from above is old but I found these pink leggings and these pink sneakers that could work if you want to replicate my look. 🙂
***Info for Milan’s potty training** I got these public restroom liners and this portable potty for the car (use these liners). This is the toilet I used to potty train her at home with and use these tiny trash bags so you don’t have to wash anything!